Archived "Suggestion Circles" Birth to 6 Months: Topic = "Crying"
Random order responses to the "Circle" question per Jean Clarke's book
( Archived ) Circle Question
My baby cries and fusses. What do I do?
Start infant massage every day for about half an hour.
Bundle her, hold her close, and take a walk outside.
Warm a blanket for her with a hot water bottle.
Hold her over your shoulder and keep moving.
Tape-record her own cry and play it back. Try it!
Put her in a Snugli or back carrier.
Take a shower or bath with her.
Rock and sing to her. It helps both mother and child to relax.
Go for a car or stroller ride.
I do relaxation techniques for myself, like yoga, massage, and meditation, imagining her quiet, comfortable, and happy.
Cut out stimulation like the television, lights, or toys.
Help her find her fist to suck.
Take off her clothes, then let her lie on her back and kick.
Touch her with calm, confident hands.
Rhythmic movement helps -- swinging, rocking, dancing, walking.
Solutions Shared by Educarer Visitors
1. Talk to baby gently and ask, "What's wrong? How can I help you?" The baby will eventually learn to feel the respect in this response. Follow up with one of the other suggestions.
2. Not only do I sympathize with the child by responding quickly..I verbalize what I think the problem might be. Oh, I see you are not happy because you don't want to lay still to get your diaper changed. This respects the child's feelings. I also continue to talk to the child explaining why I am responding the way I am. I respect their feelings while being changed. But also still changing their diapers despite protests. I validate their feelings. Most children I have talked to in this manner respond by not wailing but quieting down and actually responding positively with language or verbalization of their own. It is the beginning of helping a child learn to use their words to express feelings instead of crying and wailing.
3. Observe your baby's movements and skin tones while he cries and fusses to learn his 'language,' listen to the different tones in his cry, keep a daily log of his feedings, changings, sleeping, and bear in mind that he is trying to communicate with you as a seperate individual who can think and feel, then bring it all together to figure out exactly what he's trying to say.